Journey to Fatherhood

If you’re wondering where things stand right now, the honest answer is: we’re in motion – but not at the part where there’s a big announcement yet.

This phase of the journey is quieter than we expected. Less dramatic. More paperwork. More waiting. And more learning than we anticipated.

Still, things are moving forward.

Where We’re At Today

Right now, we’re in the deep research and decision-making phase of the surrogacy process – the part that doesn’t make for great headlines but matters more than almost anything else. 

We’re actively exploring and evaluating

• Fertility clinics and medical approaches
• Surrogacy agencies and support structures
• Funding options and financial planning
• Insights from others who have already walked this path

Every conversation, spreadsheet, and late-night discussion has the same goal: making thoughtful decisions that support our growing family not just in the short term, but for years to come.

This is very much the “measure twice, cut once” stage. Slow by design.

A Resource That’s Made a Real Difference

One organization that has been incredibly helpful during this phase is Men Having Babies.

They offer educational resources, community support, and local and both virtual and local educational events. We are looking forward to getting more involved with their community in the coming year – they’ve already helped us better understand the realities – medical, legal, and financial – of this process. 

We’ve joined their membership and applied for their assistance program and we’re currently waiting to hear whether we’ll receive any financial support. 

Even if selected, it likely wouldn’t cover the full cost of what’s ahead. But knowing that this kind of support exists – for us and for our broader community – has been incredibly meaningful. It’s a reminder that we’re not navigating this completely on our own.

The Hard Part (Because There is One)

Waiting is harder than we expected.

Not because we’re impatient – although we can be at times – but because so much of this depends on timelines and systems we don’t control. You can do everything “right” and still find yourself paused, waiting for answers or next steps. 

There’s also a strange emotional weight to being deeply invested in something that isn’t visible yet. No external proof. No milestones others can see. Just quiet commitment behind the scenes. 

Some days that’s fine. Other days it’s heavy.

What’s Next 

Over the coming months, we’ll continue narrowing options, making decisions, and moving forward step by step – while staying flexible when we need to.

We’ve also started sharing more of this journey with our closest family and friends, and we’ll continue to keep them – and anyone following along here – updated as things progress.

Progress right now doesn’t look like announcements. It looks like preparation.

And that counts. 

Why We’re Sharing This Phase

We don’t want this space to become a highlight reel – or a place where updates only show up when there’s good news to announce.

This part matters too.

So we’ll keep sharing where we are, even when it feels quiet or unfinished. Not because we have everything figured out – but because this is what building our family actually looks like.

We’re hopeful. We’re realistic. And we’re still very much in it. 

More soon.